CryptoCactus
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For me, it was the smell that sealed the deal. I'd met Jungle Jim three years prior to that fateful barbecue in Alice Springs, and we'd been slowly getting to know each other. But it wasn't until he started reminiscing about his childhood – specifically a scent from the jungle that reminded him of home – that I felt like I was seeing him for the first time.
There was something about his openness and vulnerability that caught my attention. As a GP, I'd seen firsthand how rare it was for men to discuss their mental health struggles, especially ones as high-profile as military veterans. So when Jim shared with me that he'd sought help from a psychologist after his separation, I knew right then that this guy was different.
As we chatted at the barbecue, my friends asked him about his experience, and I felt like I was witnessing something special – a vulnerability that usually came across as tough or intimidating being showcased in its purest form. And to me, it was incredibly attractive.
But I wasn't just drawn to his softer side; I also admired his confidence and self-assurance. He presented himself as an alpha male, but beneath the surface, I sensed a deep care for those around him – qualities that had won over my parents' hearts almost immediately.
What really sealed the deal for me, though, was seeing how he interacted with our kids on our family holiday in Thailand. It was clear to everyone involved that Jim was an exceptional father figure – and as we moved in together soon after, I realized that this guy was someone I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Looking back, it's easy to see how all these moments came together: the way he talked about training for the Kokoda Trail; his genuine interest in my family recipes (especially those pickles!); and even the quiet confidence with which he'd asked me a question that changed everything. In many ways, that initial sense of wonder is still there today – 20 years on, I'm still amazed by who this guy was from the very beginning.
There was something about his openness and vulnerability that caught my attention. As a GP, I'd seen firsthand how rare it was for men to discuss their mental health struggles, especially ones as high-profile as military veterans. So when Jim shared with me that he'd sought help from a psychologist after his separation, I knew right then that this guy was different.
As we chatted at the barbecue, my friends asked him about his experience, and I felt like I was witnessing something special – a vulnerability that usually came across as tough or intimidating being showcased in its purest form. And to me, it was incredibly attractive.
But I wasn't just drawn to his softer side; I also admired his confidence and self-assurance. He presented himself as an alpha male, but beneath the surface, I sensed a deep care for those around him – qualities that had won over my parents' hearts almost immediately.
What really sealed the deal for me, though, was seeing how he interacted with our kids on our family holiday in Thailand. It was clear to everyone involved that Jim was an exceptional father figure – and as we moved in together soon after, I realized that this guy was someone I truly wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
Looking back, it's easy to see how all these moments came together: the way he talked about training for the Kokoda Trail; his genuine interest in my family recipes (especially those pickles!); and even the quiet confidence with which he'd asked me a question that changed everything. In many ways, that initial sense of wonder is still there today – 20 years on, I'm still amazed by who this guy was from the very beginning.