Breaking Up with Someone Who Loves You: Is It Ever Justifiable?
In a relationship that seems like the epitome of happiness, one woman finds herself suffocating under the weight of her partner's conventional nature. The stability he provides is comforting, but it comes at a cost - a stifling sense of monotony that leaves her feeling cold and irritated. Despite his kindness and generosity, she yearns for excitement, adventure, and personal growth.
She dreams of traveling the world, becoming a writer, and living in a van, surrounded by solitude. Her inner life is rich and vibrant, but it's incompatible with the mundane routine of their relationship. She's torn between her desire to be with someone who truly loves her and her fear of hurting him.
The question on everyone's mind is: can she justify breaking up with someone who loves her? Eleanor, a seasoned expert in navigating complex relationships, offers some sage advice. "If you want the permission that it's OK to hurt a good person, it is," she says. "It's actually no favour to stay. People can tell if you're reserved about being with them."
Eleanor's words are both brutal and liberating. She encourages her readers not to second-guess themselves, but rather to confront the reality of their incompatibilities. "If what's happening is you've realised you have genuine incompatibilities but you aren't sure whether they 'justify' the blow of leaving," she reminds us, "they're already true. If you're not compatible, that's why you break up."
The truth is, relationships are a two-way street. The things we love about our partner can also be the very things that constrain us. By acknowledging and accepting this reality, we can begin to let go of what's holding us back.
So, how do you break up with someone who loves you? It's not an easy question, but Eleanor's words offer a glimmer of hope: sometimes, it's okay to hurt the people we love in order to find ourselves.
In a relationship that seems like the epitome of happiness, one woman finds herself suffocating under the weight of her partner's conventional nature. The stability he provides is comforting, but it comes at a cost - a stifling sense of monotony that leaves her feeling cold and irritated. Despite his kindness and generosity, she yearns for excitement, adventure, and personal growth.
She dreams of traveling the world, becoming a writer, and living in a van, surrounded by solitude. Her inner life is rich and vibrant, but it's incompatible with the mundane routine of their relationship. She's torn between her desire to be with someone who truly loves her and her fear of hurting him.
The question on everyone's mind is: can she justify breaking up with someone who loves her? Eleanor, a seasoned expert in navigating complex relationships, offers some sage advice. "If you want the permission that it's OK to hurt a good person, it is," she says. "It's actually no favour to stay. People can tell if you're reserved about being with them."
Eleanor's words are both brutal and liberating. She encourages her readers not to second-guess themselves, but rather to confront the reality of their incompatibilities. "If what's happening is you've realised you have genuine incompatibilities but you aren't sure whether they 'justify' the blow of leaving," she reminds us, "they're already true. If you're not compatible, that's why you break up."
The truth is, relationships are a two-way street. The things we love about our partner can also be the very things that constrain us. By acknowledging and accepting this reality, we can begin to let go of what's holding us back.
So, how do you break up with someone who loves you? It's not an easy question, but Eleanor's words offer a glimmer of hope: sometimes, it's okay to hurt the people we love in order to find ourselves.
like they're literally dying over here and I've been meaning to get around to it all week. anyway back to this convo about breaking up with someone who loves you... I think what's important is that you prioritize your own happiness, even if it means hurting the other person's feelings. it's not selfish, it's necessary for growth 
u cant force ppl 2 be w/ u if ur not feelin it either way, so its all bout bein real w/ yerself first & then maybe nvr lookin back 
Breaking up with someone who's literally crazy about you can be SO tough! 
I think what's really important here is not that you're "justifying" hurting them, but that you're acknowledging your own needs and desires. 
You can't force someone to be excited about your passions, but you can choose whether or not to stay in a situation that makes you feel like you're suffocating. 
. If u gotta choose between stability & personal growth, u gotta make a decision that's right 4 u, even if it hurts the other person 
. It's not about being cruel or heartless, it's about bein true to urself 
. People can't force u 2 stay in a relationship that's suckin the life outta u 
. If u know u deserve better, then u gotta take a chance & break free 
!
this is such a tough spot to be in... i think its crazy how one person can make us feel like im living in a prison while also being super loving 
. It's like Eleanor said, people can tell when you're holding back on a relationship out of fear or obligation, and it's better to be honest about your own needs and wants 
think its hard 2 say if u can justify breaking up w/someone who loves u...u wanna b happy n ur relationship is suffocating u 
but stayin w/ them wont make u happy...its like, do u prioritize ur own happiness or the other persons? 
I'm all about that platform loyalty 
! Just like how users can't just up and leave their favorite social media without thinking twice... I mean, who wants to break up with someone they truly care about? 
like what's up with that?? i mean i love my kitty but have u ever seen her blink?? it's all three lids at once lol anyway back to relationships i think its great that eleanor is saying its ok to hurt someone u love cuz sometimes thats the only way we'll find ourselves 
Honestly, if you're feeling suffocated in a relationship that's all about stability and monotony, it's time to reevaluate what you want out of life. I mean, who needs someone else's approval to chase your dreams? 
my friends are all about stability and security 
but me? I need excitement 
I'm a total free spirit 
if someone loves you, it's not okay to hold them back 
not suffocating each other 
sometimes it's better to hurt the people we love in order to find ourselves 
it's scary but also kinda liberating 
. For me, I think Eleanor hit the nail on the head when she said that if you stay in a relationship because you don't want to hurt the other person, you're actually doing them a disservice 
. We need to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge that we can't pour from an empty cup 
. It's not about being cruel or heartless; it's about becoming the best version of yourself 
.