My petty gripe: my coupled friends refuse to set me up with a potential mate. It’s not good enough

A Surprising Silence from Our Coupled Friends

Growing up, pop culture taught me that if I ever found myself single as an adult, my coupled friends would eagerly invite me to dinner parties, using these gatherings as a front for matchmaking. It was always portrayed in a lighthearted, fun way - a potluck of potential suitors, where one could sample various types until finding someone palatable.

However, in reality, my experience has been the opposite. Despite having a solid social circle, I've found that my friends have refused to come through with any introductions or match-making efforts. A single attempt at setting me up ended in an awkward encounter - my date turned out to be married to the person who set us up.

It's natural for some to think that maybe the problem lies within the individual being set up, but a recent poll of singles in my social circle suggests this isn't the case. Instead, it appears that coupled friends are shying away from their duty to play Cupid. This trend has led me to wonder if people are too busy hosting dinner parties for their more eligible friends.

The resurgence of professional matchmaking services reveals two significant points: we're all tired of online dating, and our coupled friends aren't pulling their weight when it comes to introducing us to potential partners. It's time for couples to take an active role in setting up a single friend - it might require some effort, but so do other aspects of life like maintaining relationships or engaging in conversations.

Let's be honest; the process of trying to get to know someone, whether through a failed date or endless small talk, takes just as much energy as getting set up in the first place. By returning this favor and introducing singles into their network, our coupled friends can show they truly care about our well-being. Who knows? One day, we might be in a similar situation, and those who have been there will surely return the kindness.

omg I completely feel you!!! like what's going on with these couples nowadays? they're all about their own little cliques and don't wanna extend an olive branch to us singles lol I mean I've got a friend who's been trying online dating for ages and she's still waiting for someone decent to come along but in the meantime her friends are over here living their best lives with their significant others

I feel ya! My friend group was like that too they always seem more interested in getting set up for themselves than actually helping us out it's like we're invisible and honestly, professional matchmaking services are like a breath of fresh air I mean who needs all that awkwardness when you can just pay someone to do the legwork for you

idk why ppl r still playin it cool when it comes 2 helpin out singles . i mean, if u r really interested in settin us up, just do it already! dont make us wait around 4 hours @ ur dinner party, only to find out the guy's married or whatever . and btw, who needs a "matchmaker" service when u got friends who r willin 2 put in some effort?

I feel like I've been in the same boat with my own friends. Like, what's up, are you too busy flexing your single status or just don't wanna deal with the drama? We're all tired of being ghosted by our coupled friends . Professional matchmaking services might be a thing now but let's not forget that we've been doing this for years and it's not always easy to find someone you click with. And honestly, if my friends can't be bothered to set me up then maybe I'll just join the apps myself and see what happens . At least that way I'll know I tried before having to settle for some random Tinder date

I feel me, though. I've noticed this too with my own friend group. We're all so busy...I don't know, living our best lives or whatever . It's like we expect single people to just magically find love through social media or something? Like, no one wants to have a awkward dinner party for us anymore? I remember when everyone used to be all about setting each other up - it was so much fun! Now it feels like we're too good for that sorta thing. Anyway, I think professional matchmaking services are just the answer...or maybe couples should start with their own friends first?

omg u guys i think the author is totes right i've noticed this too with my own friends they're all busy with their own lives and priorities and totally neglecting their single friends' love lives it's like they forget that being a good friend means supporting each other's relationships too, not just focusing on their own happiness

i mean can u imagine if your friends did care about setting you up? wouldn't that be a game changer? we'd all have so much more social life and connections it's time for couples to step up their friend game

idk why my couped friends r ghosting me rn i was 2tes thinkin it wuz me but turns out its them they even said somethin bout bein tired of dat online dating life... meanwhile, they r just sittin over here hostin dinner parties for ther more eligible mates & i'm like, isnt it ur job 2 help me out? gotta give credit tho, professional matchmaker services r comin back into play... guess its time 4 our couped friends 2 step up & show some love

I feel you I've noticed my own group of friends are super reluctant to set me up with people. They're always like "oh no, I don't know if you'd like them" or "it's a lot of work" lol what even is that? We're all adults here, can't we just have some fun and help each other out? It's not like they're expecting anything in return, right?

honestly i think its not cool that ppl r complaining bout it when they were the ones expectin them 2 hook us up first place lol now dat matchmaking services r gettin all popular i think its great cuz singles gotta take initiative 4 themselves & dont rely on their coupled friends 2 do the dirty work for them

I mean, what's going on with my friends right now? They're all about that 'no drama' life, but when it comes to playing matchmaker, suddenly they're like "nobody has time" . Like, come on, if you can squeeze in a Netflix binge or host a dinner party for your single friend's birthday, then why not make an effort to set us up? And don't even get me started on the 'I'm too busy' excuse... I've seen them post about their own brunch dates and 'self-care Sundays', but it's always 'no time' when it comes to helping out a friend in need . It's like they think we're just going to magically find our perfect match while they're out living their best lives . Newsflash: online dating is hard, and sometimes it takes someone to take the reins...

omg can u believe its like so hard 2 find people willing 2 put themselves out there 4 u ??!! i think this is such a good point about how our friends r shying away from bein Cupid but at the same time, we cant expect singles to do all the work its like we need both sides 2 step up their game

I feel like I'm not alone in this - my own coupled friends are super awkward at introducing me to people. They just kinda... forget or change the subject. Like, remember that one friend who was supposed to set me up with her cousin? Never happened . It's like they think it's my job to do all the legwork and find someone for them, not the other way around. And can we talk about how exhausting online dating is?! I'm so over swiping through profiles and going on mediocre dates. Professional matchmaking services are actually kinda genius - let's just get couples to take care of their single friends for once!

I feel you! It's like, if my friends were gonna play matchmaker for me, they'd at least give it a shot, right? But nope, they just sit back and let me deal with the awkward dates. And now that online dating is still not taking off (lol, what's wrong with us?!), I guess it's up to our coupled friends to step in and help us out. It's not like they're asking for much - just a little effort to introduce us to someone new. But hey, if they're too busy showing off their own singles to their eligible friends... I get it. Still, I hope my friends come through soon. It'd be awesome to meet some cool people and maybe even find the one!

omg I feel like I've been in that awkward encounter too lol! it's so true that coupled friends are not pulling their weight when it comes to setting us up. i think it's because they're all about their own relationships and don't want to take on the extra responsibility of introducing a single friend to someone new . but at the same time, can't we just have an open conversation with them about it? like, let's be real, we need help finding love too! maybe we should start a group chat and make a pact to set each other up? that way everyone wins

idk what's going on with my coupled friends rn... i was expecting them to swoop in & set me up with someone, but nobody's even tried . like, i get it if people are busy or whatever, but it's still frustrating when you feel like your friends aren't trying hard enough to help you out . professional matchmaking services are popping up left & right, which is kinda interesting... maybe ppl r just done with online dating & expect their coupled friends 2 step up? anyway, i think it's time for us singles 2 take matters into our own hands . let's be real, setting someone up can be hard work, but maintaining a friendship or convo takes way more energy . so yeah, i guess what i'm saying is... show some love to your single pals & introduce them 2 people who might actually be cool !

I feel you! Like, why would my friends even bother setting me up if they're not gonna follow through? It's like, they wanna be part of the fun, but they don't wanna put in the work either . And omg, that story about the married guy who set them up is CRAZY ! I need some real-life matchmakers in my life stat . But seriously, it's time for us singles to take matters into our own hands and make our own connections. We shouldn't have to rely on just our friends .

I'm kinda with this idea that coupled friends should step up their matchmaking game... but I gotta say, it feels a bit too much to expect them to just swoop in and fix things . It's not like they have a magic matchmaking button . Plus, what if the single person is super picky or has deal-breakers? Can't put that on our friends for sure. Maybe it's just a case of people being too busy with their own lives and not realizing how much energy goes into swiping through dating apps . Anyways, I think professional matchmaking services are a great idea - who needs all the drama and ghosting?

idk why people still use tinder its so outdated lol i mean i've been on it before but my friend set me up with her ex like 3 years after they broke up anyway back to this whole matchmaking thing i think its cool that ppl are paying others 2 do the work 4 them tho its just weird how some of our coupled friends have become so passive about introducing us 2 new ppl i mean if ur a good matchmaker u gotta put in the effort right?

Ugh I'm so done with people being super selective w/ their social circles ! Like why can't my coupled friends just invite me to dinner & casually introduce me 2 some single ppl? It's not like it's gonna be a huge deal 4 them, but 4 singles like me, it's all or nothin' . I mean, have u seen those professional matchmaking services lately? It's like people r so over online dating already...