DataDolphin
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A Surprising Silence from Our Coupled Friends
Growing up, pop culture taught me that if I ever found myself single as an adult, my coupled friends would eagerly invite me to dinner parties, using these gatherings as a front for matchmaking. It was always portrayed in a lighthearted, fun way - a potluck of potential suitors, where one could sample various types until finding someone palatable.
However, in reality, my experience has been the opposite. Despite having a solid social circle, I've found that my friends have refused to come through with any introductions or match-making efforts. A single attempt at setting me up ended in an awkward encounter - my date turned out to be married to the person who set us up.
It's natural for some to think that maybe the problem lies within the individual being set up, but a recent poll of singles in my social circle suggests this isn't the case. Instead, it appears that coupled friends are shying away from their duty to play Cupid. This trend has led me to wonder if people are too busy hosting dinner parties for their more eligible friends.
The resurgence of professional matchmaking services reveals two significant points: we're all tired of online dating, and our coupled friends aren't pulling their weight when it comes to introducing us to potential partners. It's time for couples to take an active role in setting up a single friend - it might require some effort, but so do other aspects of life like maintaining relationships or engaging in conversations.
Let's be honest; the process of trying to get to know someone, whether through a failed date or endless small talk, takes just as much energy as getting set up in the first place. By returning this favor and introducing singles into their network, our coupled friends can show they truly care about our well-being. Who knows? One day, we might be in a similar situation, and those who have been there will surely return the kindness.
Growing up, pop culture taught me that if I ever found myself single as an adult, my coupled friends would eagerly invite me to dinner parties, using these gatherings as a front for matchmaking. It was always portrayed in a lighthearted, fun way - a potluck of potential suitors, where one could sample various types until finding someone palatable.
However, in reality, my experience has been the opposite. Despite having a solid social circle, I've found that my friends have refused to come through with any introductions or match-making efforts. A single attempt at setting me up ended in an awkward encounter - my date turned out to be married to the person who set us up.
It's natural for some to think that maybe the problem lies within the individual being set up, but a recent poll of singles in my social circle suggests this isn't the case. Instead, it appears that coupled friends are shying away from their duty to play Cupid. This trend has led me to wonder if people are too busy hosting dinner parties for their more eligible friends.
The resurgence of professional matchmaking services reveals two significant points: we're all tired of online dating, and our coupled friends aren't pulling their weight when it comes to introducing us to potential partners. It's time for couples to take an active role in setting up a single friend - it might require some effort, but so do other aspects of life like maintaining relationships or engaging in conversations.
Let's be honest; the process of trying to get to know someone, whether through a failed date or endless small talk, takes just as much energy as getting set up in the first place. By returning this favor and introducing singles into their network, our coupled friends can show they truly care about our well-being. Who knows? One day, we might be in a similar situation, and those who have been there will surely return the kindness.
like what's going on with these couples nowadays? they're all about their own little cliques and don't wanna extend an olive branch to us singles lol I mean I've got a friend who's been trying online dating for ages and she's still waiting for someone decent to come along but in the meantime her friends are over here living their best lives with their significant others 
I feel ya! My friend group was like that too 
they always seem more interested in getting set up for themselves than actually helping us out 
it's like we're invisible 
and honestly, professional matchmaking services are like a breath of fresh air 
I mean who needs all that awkwardness when you can just pay someone to do the legwork for you 
. i mean, if u r really interested in settin us up, just do it already! dont make us wait around 4 hours @ ur dinner party, only to find out the guy's married or whatever 
. and btw, who needs a "matchmaker" service when u got friends who r willin 2 put in some effort? 
they even said somethin bout bein tired of dat online dating life... meanwhile, they r just sittin over here hostin dinner parties for ther more eligible mates 
I've noticed my own group of friends are super reluctant to set me up with people. They're always like "oh no, I don't know if you'd like them" or "it's a lot of work" lol what even is that? We're all adults here, can't we just have some fun and help each other out? It's not like they're expecting anything in return, right? 
& dont rely on their coupled friends 2 do the dirty work for them 
I'm so over swiping through profiles and going on mediocre dates. Professional matchmaking services are actually kinda genius - let's just get couples to take care of their single friends for once! 
I get it. Still, I hope my friends come through soon. It'd be awesome to meet some cool people and maybe even find the one! 
. professional matchmaking services are popping up left & right, which is kinda interesting... maybe ppl r just done with online dating & expect their coupled friends 2 step up? anyway, i think it's time for us singles 2 take matters into our own hands 
. let's be real, setting someone up can be hard work, but maintaining a friendship or convo takes way more energy 
. Plus, what if the single person is super picky or has deal-breakers? 
Can't put that on our friends for sure. Maybe it's just a case of people being too busy with their own lives and not realizing how much energy goes into swiping through dating apps 
. Anyways, I think professional matchmaking services are a great idea - who needs all the drama and ghosting? 
anyway back to this whole matchmaking thing i think its cool that ppl are paying others 2 do the work 4 them tho its just weird how some of our coupled friends have become so passive about introducing us 2 new ppl