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"Friends Not Liable: The Unsettling Truth About Being Set Up"
In a world where online dating has become the norm for singles, one person is fed up with their coupled friends refusing to play cupid. The writer, who has been set up just once and has since resorted to swiping through apps, took to social media to air their grievances.
It's not that they're looking for handouts or expecting their friends to do all the legwork – it's simply a matter of fairness. They've conducted a poll among their single friends, and the results are telling: most believe that couples have abandoned their responsibility to set up their singleton pals.
"I've considered the possibility that I'm the problem," they admit, "but the consensus is clear: this lack of effort is de rigueur, not personal." And it's not just about the initial matchmaking; it's also about maintaining a healthy social circle and sharing in the joys (and struggles) of single life.
The resurgence of professional matchmaking services might suggest that singles are at their wit's end with swiping through endless profiles. However, the writer argues that their friends – the ones who claim to be "coupled up" but never put themselves out for others – are also guilty of this lack of initiative.
"Couples, come on now," they say. "It's time to get off your love seat and set us up." It's not about expecting grand gestures or instant matches; it's simply about being willing to put in a bit of effort to help someone find love (or at least a decent date).
As the writer so aptly puts it, "Sharing your outrage over your partner's seemingly endless domestic failures? That's no walk in the park either." By not stepping up and setting each other up, couples are essentially giving singles a free pass to navigate the often-try-hard world of online dating alone.
Who knows what could have been if these friends simply returned the favour? Perhaps we'll see a shift in social norms, with singles no longer expected to fend for themselves. Until then, it's time for us all to step up and set each other up – or at least show some basic human decency towards those of us who are flying solo.
In a world where online dating has become the norm for singles, one person is fed up with their coupled friends refusing to play cupid. The writer, who has been set up just once and has since resorted to swiping through apps, took to social media to air their grievances.
It's not that they're looking for handouts or expecting their friends to do all the legwork – it's simply a matter of fairness. They've conducted a poll among their single friends, and the results are telling: most believe that couples have abandoned their responsibility to set up their singleton pals.
"I've considered the possibility that I'm the problem," they admit, "but the consensus is clear: this lack of effort is de rigueur, not personal." And it's not just about the initial matchmaking; it's also about maintaining a healthy social circle and sharing in the joys (and struggles) of single life.
The resurgence of professional matchmaking services might suggest that singles are at their wit's end with swiping through endless profiles. However, the writer argues that their friends – the ones who claim to be "coupled up" but never put themselves out for others – are also guilty of this lack of initiative.
"Couples, come on now," they say. "It's time to get off your love seat and set us up." It's not about expecting grand gestures or instant matches; it's simply about being willing to put in a bit of effort to help someone find love (or at least a decent date).
As the writer so aptly puts it, "Sharing your outrage over your partner's seemingly endless domestic failures? That's no walk in the park either." By not stepping up and setting each other up, couples are essentially giving singles a free pass to navigate the often-try-hard world of online dating alone.
Who knows what could have been if these friends simply returned the favour? Perhaps we'll see a shift in social norms, with singles no longer expected to fend for themselves. Until then, it's time for us all to step up and set each other up – or at least show some basic human decency towards those of us who are flying solo.
. Like, if couples are really too busy to set their friends up, why isn't that a problem when it comes to their own relationships? I mean, I've seen some of these "couples" on social media making all this fuss about "love" and "commitment", but where's the effort when it counts? It's like they're just trying to justify their own laziness. And don't even get me started on the matchmaking services – that's just a way for them to make money off our desperation. I'm not buying it, folks. There's gotta be more to this story than meets the eye 
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like why do ppl assume we singles r just gonna sit around waiting 4 someone 2 come 4 us? i mean i've been on my fair share of dates but having friends who r all about their own thing kinda sucks 
it's not all fun n games 2 swipe thru profiles n try 2 find love its actually pretty stressful & frustrating when u feel like nobody wants 2 help u out 
my squad and i have been talking about this so much online too! like why should we always be the ones putting ourselves out there? shouldn't our friends be doing the same? it's not fair to expect us to do all the legwork when they're "coupled up" 
couples need to step up their game and start setting each other up too! and btw, i don't think it's about expecting grand gestures or instant matches... just a basic human decency towards those of us who are solo 
maybe we'll see a change in social norms soon? fingers crossed 
these couples think they're above the game just because they're coupled up but really they're just lazy 
and expecting everyone else to do all the work is lowkey annoying tbh. like can't they just put themselves out there for a sec? 
they're not just being lazy tho they really are abandoning their responsibility as friends 
its like when ur bestie is always there for u but then expects u to be there for them too? 
If you're gonna say you're "coupled up", then show some love for your single friends by setting them up #LoveIsATwoWayStreet
We need more kindness and empathy in our lives, especially when it comes to online dating #OnlineDatingSupport
... i mean, if u r coupled up but never put ur friends out for dates or anything it's kinda unfair right? maybe couples should be more considerate & help singles find love instead of just chillin on the couch 
. I mean, I've got plenty of friends who are in relationships, but have they ever even asked me out on a date? Nope, didn't think so 
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It's time for us all to step up and be decent to each other, singles and non-singles alike!